Self-leadership is all about knowing who you are, what
you can do, which direction you are taking and integrating with the ability to manage
your communication, emotions and behaviour to achieve personal & professional
excellence.
To be a leader, we must first know the answer of who am
I?
Who are you? Well, we don’t really exist; we are just
expressions, souls waiting for the ultimate purpose to be fulfilled, trying to utilize the
immense potential within us. Our body is not a structure because this very moment is
different from the moments in which I attended class. We are constantly recycling by
biological processes and that is a result of everything occurring around us, our personal
relations, our social interactions
and our own perceptions.
The past is history, since everything around us is
constantly changing. Including us. Our focus should be on the present. We must leave our
grievances of the past behind us. We should stop holding on to incidents that happened 25
years ago. We must throw away this ego. The difference between a dog and a human being
is that if you kick a dog, the dog will always remember this incident. If you happen to
meet the dog 5 years later, he may attack you, remembering the previous episode. But
unlike a human being, the dog won’t plan for 5 years how to avenge his insult. We
have this natural tendency to go back in the past with revenge or an evil feeling which
serves no purpose in our well being.
We must try out things out of our comfort zones without
the fear of failing because those who never fail can never feel the true joy of
winning.
The best thing we can do to make our lives better is to
make someone else happy and to repeat that with as many people as we meet. This is the
Happiness Formula which we should keep practicing. Providing a smile on the faces of
people we know and don’t know, affects our own happiness. When two peoples get engaged, it is not only about two individuals anymore but about all the people
connected to both of us. More
importantly, We are all multi-dimensional beings.
A leader is someone who always thinks of giving. Giving
does not need to be limited to material objects in nature. It can be through giving of
your time and attention too. Offering comfort, listening and supporting, are all gifts
that are much needed and appreciated. It is only when we offer ourselves to
others, can we experience true happiness and satisfaction.
Learning is a life-long process and knowledge that keeps
on changing, the more we know, the less it seems. There is a story which
demonstrates this. There was a renowned, knowledgeable and highly intellectual sadhu who
used to sit and preach. He used to meditate every morning on the banks of the river
Ganga. In the years of his meditation, he did it with a great level of
concentration. Birds use to chirp and sit on this
shoulders and lap as he meditated, and flew away when he
was done. A 5 year old boy once came to him and asked the sadhu, if he could catch a
bird for him to touch and the boy promised not to harm the bird. The sadhu agreed and
asked the boy to come there the next morning at 6am. He started meditation so that he
could catch a bird but not a single bird came to him. He was amazed to learn a new
lesson from the little boy- the importance of positive energy, something that the birds
sensed every morning and was an attraction for the birds. Ignoring the negative vibes
around him, the Sadhu understood that there is always a scope of adding
knowledge and that need can never be complete.
Regards
Sandeep Singh
