Saturday 22 September 2012

: Amit Singh_BLP025_Self Leadership_September 2012


It was a great learning experience after attending the self leadership session of Anil Sir. In the last class held at the start of first trimester, we had the great privilege to understand self through the concentric model of 5 qualities on which the institute itself is based upon. In continuance, in this class we were enlightened upon the aspects of inter personal relationship and route to happiness. This session was a great cathartic moment for all of us as it provided us the opportunity to let out our emotions and gave us the strength to cope with the loss of 2 of our beloved friends.    

The session started with a video on “things to do before I die” which for me was a great source of inspiration as it provided the insight to have aspiration and dream even while facing the ultimate truth of life which is “Death”. This video for me was a way to rejoice life and accept death.

Then we learned the nuances of appreciative inquiry and the qualities needed for it, one of which is deep listening as if one’s life depends on it and to paraphrase what s/he has said. Deep listening only comes when the listener is fully present and is able to empathise i.e. put oneself in other’s perspective not position. Also the other qualities needed for undertaking AI is to develop trust which can only come into being when the EQ level of listener is high. Finally for an AI to be successful one should be respectful of other’s uniqueness and also aspect of genuineness and warmth should be reflected through words and body language. I had this great experience of undergoing the process of AI with Sandeep Balaji (exercise was conducted for whole class in group of 2) and it was a great experience for me to know him better to share my thoughts. As a class we got to know each other much better in terms of his/her strengths and qualities which generally we ignore. This exercise created a sense of belonging among each and everyone developed collective aspiration to make the institute and our self better than before.

In afternoon session we watched the video of a monk who is termed the happiest person in the world in which he shared secret behind happy life. Then we individually introspected upon the causes of unhappiness in our life by concentration upon following aspects

1.       Unstated emotional expectation of near and dear ones which I have failed to meet

2.       Regrets about the past

3.       Guilt which I carry with me all the time

This exercise brought to the surface those incidents which always remain in our mind but we try our best to ignore it. It was a way to become more conscious of our own self and take corrective action to take out those emotions that always disturbs us because until and unless one doesn’t know what the problem, one can’t find real solution.  

And then we collectively shed all our burdens that we carry from the past which always pulls us back in a very figurative way as if we are climbing the mountain of happiness and shedding all our bag and baggage of past to reach to the top and attain happiness.      

The takeaway from this session was to build an aura of positivity within and around you to create unity in diversity.   

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