The class started by congratulating us that we (BLP
class) had cleared their First Terminal Exams and are into our Second Term. But
he also expressed deep remorse about the fact that we had lost two of our
dearest friends. Eventually he told us to do a small exercise. He told us to put it
down in pen and paper how it felt like when we heard the news of the sudden
demise of our dearest friends and also how did we manage to accept that thing.
Here I would like to write down a few points I wrote:
Initially I was in a state of shock and remorse. But
gradually when I realized the fact that our friends are no more with us I
learned to accept it.
I believe we are too small in front of the great power
that drives the universe. So we must accept the fact and remember our friends
by leading our lives in a manner that would have made them proud. We don’t know
whether our prayers are heard or not, but just in case it is, we should pray
for their souls.
Next we discussed about the ability to listen. Anil
sir told us that we should listen to a person as if our life depends upon the
words that the person is speaking. We should have the curiosity of a child when
we are listening to others. We need to understand properly what the speaker is
telling. Also we need to make the speaker feel comfortable and with our body
language and gestures we need to make him understand that we are following
whatever he is trying to convey. We must also paraphrase whatever he has told over
a period of time and repeat it. In this way the speaker will know whether
listener is in line. Also we were told that paraphrasing has two parts one is
regarding the content or the thought and the second is the emotional aspect or
the feelings.
Also Anil Sir told us that another aspect of a great
listener is that he is empathetic. Empathetic is like feeling what the speaker
is feeling. He also explained in a very dramatic manner, the difference between
sympathy and empathy. For this exercise he called two volunteers. One of them
was asked to remove his shoes and the second was told to fit into the other
person’s shoes without taking out his own shoes. He told that the learning from
the exercise was that we cannot fit into other’s shoes if we do not remove our
own shoes. That is what he called empathy.
He then discussed regarding EQ (Emotional quotient).
He told that when we are applying for higher jobs, what is measured by most of
the great leaders in the EQ. It is just like being in a relationship, where trust
is the first thing. From trust we respect that person and accept the uniqueness
of that person. We should also demonstrate genuineness and this should be
through our eyes and body language when we speak or whether we listen.
Later in the day Anil Sir told us to do an
appreciative enquiry of one of our fellow classmates. I was fortunate enough to
do it for Rohit Deo. After this exercise was done, he listed all the unique
talents that each one of us possessed. And told us that we have unique talents
within us, all that we need to do is to make them count.
As a last exercise he told us to write down the things
the unstated expectations that my near and dear ones had from me and similarly
I had from those people. Also he told us to write down a few incidents which we
regret the most.
Ultimately he told us that we need to let go the
negative energy that are pulling us back, they are just like heavy stones that
we are carrying on our backs on our way up to a steep mountain. If we can do so
we can focus on the present and thus do justice to the present work that we are
doing.
Towards the end of the class Anil Sir narrated an
incident from his life. Through the story what he wanted to convey was that before
doing any action we must put ourselves in the shoes of persons we care the most
and judge by ourselves whatever we are doing is correct or not. He also told us
to narrate any incident from our side if we had that type of experience.
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