Dipti Sethi_BLP048_Self Leadership_September2012

This was the second time we got the chance to have a session on Self Leadership with our honorable and charismatic leader Mr. Anil Sachdev.

Since we have lost 2 of our leaders, our classmates: Gaurav and Rahul and Anil Sir knew the emotions flowing inside our brains and hearts after that unexpected and horrible incident.

Also, the SOIL family was very supportive in that entire week and stood as a family as the name goes (SOIL family).

He identified, understood and through this session released our emotions in terms of its impact on us.

So he started the session by analyzing the impact of that situation on us – individually and then in groups which was shared finally with Anil Sir.

As per our group, we came up with below key points:

·         The first thing by which you can help others is to help yourself, take care.

·         Life is unpredictable so make use of each and every moment of it.

·         Live life as one day and love everyone who comes your way.

·         What we spend as moments becomes memory for others.

·     Show your warmth and enthusiasm to this whole world so that they’ll remember    your smiling faces whenever you come to their mind.

·     Love your parents – take care of them because they won’t be able to forget anything about you.

After this, Anil Sir discussed about EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE :

·         Is acquired

·         Ability to listen to people (as if your life depends on it) –  Should be able to absorb   directly  without exaggeration and dilution.

·         Understand - Paraphrase

Affective components of intelligence may be essential to success in life.Sympathy and Empathy – both are the key terms used for emotions. He showed very beautifully the difference in SYMPATHY and EMPATHY. He called 2 people and told one of them to wear other person’s shoes over his own shoes  – that’s SYMPATHY. Then he was told to take out his own shoes and then try to wear other one’s shoes – that’s EMPATHY.

The person using empathy tunes into the entire inner world of the other person whereas the person using sympathy typically tunes into only those aspects with which he agrees.

The listener using empathy usually responds more comprehensively to the talker as compared with the listener using sympathy.

EQ stands for Emotional Intelligence Quotient. It’s a measure of person’s emotional intelligence. It makes people trust on you. Qualities of an EQ person are empathy, listening skills, patience, and respect for others. She/he accepts the uniqueness of the other person. Genuineness, Authenticity, Warmth – reflects by your eyes and body language if you are Emotionally Intelligent. It comes by self understanding.

After that, we did Appreciative Inquiry about each other like a kid in which we discussed about our best moment in SOIL, and when SOIL was at its best (Strengths of SOIL), what was special about the experience, what does this teach us about ourselves?

Everyone shared their views about each other and SOIL.

It was a great spiritual session at the end of which we were asked to think deeply about unstated expectations, regrets about past, guilts that we carry so that we should be able to move forward and be successful irrespective of all the hindrances or heavy stones which are on our back and stopping us to move forward. But we have to fight like a kid and remove those stones to keep moving.