Wednesday, 24 October 2012

Hargeet Singh Brar_BLP057_Self Leadership_October 2012


The class of self-leadership on 15th October started with summarizing what we did till now. It included the discussion on the six layers, study of one’s own self and appreciative inquiry. Then we went on and discussed about how we learnt Appreciative inquiry at Sidhbari and then practiced it during our trip to nearby villages where CORD has done tremendous amount of work for upliftment of people and how people have taken responsibility of their own growth.

Then we talked about the framework by Doctor Ron Howard at Stanford University for strategic decision making. This framework tells us about how we make choices for ourselves. It has various steps where:

·         The first step is to define the most important question we are trying to find the answer to.

·         Then we collect meaningful and reliable information related to question defined in step one, followed by defining several creative and do able alternatives.

·         Then we need to define logic for evaluating risk and return. For example if the board of Tata Steel has to decide the next MD, then they may define the framework of competencies required and based on that they can take unbiased decision.

·         We must also decide upon the values and tradeoffs related to each alternative. E.g. some decisions may sound compelling but they may go against your core values so you need to discard such decisions.

·         Finally once the question and alternatives are defined and the best alternative is found, we need to formulate the strategy to implement the same.

This framework is a great tool in decision making but is only useful when the list of alternatives is exhaustive and we clearly know our values and tradeoffs. I could see the importance and use of this framework in making career choice. For example the question one may ask is “What career to take up that keeps me happy?” and use the framework to get best possible solution. Many a times we feel that to gain something, one needs to lose something. When such a situation arises, one must revisit his list of alternatives and redefine them more creatively in way that you need not lose anything.

Building upon it, we then talked about the creativity one may have and tests to measure creativity. According to a survey done, all of us are most creative in the age group of 5 to 15 years. India is among the worst in the world on creativity level. The reason for the same is our education system that keeps on putting layers of conditioning on our creative minds to shut them down. Then we discussed about the dimensions of creativity:

·         Ideational fluency: means coming up with large number of ideas in limited amount of time.

·         Originality of thinking: how original your ideas are

·         Associational fluency: it is combining images with different aspects. E.g. Concorde design was inspired by grasshopper.

Creativity can be increased by using these dimensions and also by overcoming our fears. There are many tools to measure our fears. This gives rise to five laws that prevent us from being creative. Using this framework, we need to answer some questions on 1-10 scale, 1 being lowest and 10 highest. Whenever I am trying to do something new, to what extent:

·         the failure strikes me?

·         am I conscious of what others will say?

·         am I concerned about ambiguity?

·         am I concerned about lack of time and resources?

·         it bothers me when what I want to do requires me to be outside and in touch with nature?

One good thing about creativity is that each one of us having total score more than 25 has scope of reducing the same. Getting out of our comfort zone and going to Mother Nature helps to reduce fears.

Then we prepared our life maps showcasing our high and low points throughout our lives. We marked the most critical moments we encountered in life and which impacted our life. This analysis helped us to study our set of core values.

During the final session of the day, we went through the ladder of inference. It states that we begin to think our beliefs are truth, our beliefs are real data, the truth is obvious, the data we select is real data and we have all the data we need. But Stanford studied that 80% of information presented as facts was biased and was based on beliefs of few folks. It shows that the decision makers do not use real information. They base their decisions on data they have and feel it to be authentic. We must use the ladder to challenge our questions and find are they based on real data or our biases. Then we closed the day with closing circle and an important message-LOVE means loving your own values eternally and LOVE helps to overcome all fears.

 

In continuation to the class on 15th October, the class on 22nd October stated where we left last time. We discussed that how we can overcome our fears. Sir shared his story from 1984 riots in Delhi. It gave us clear picture that when love for a cause is so intense that you forget your own family, you transcend all the fears and show extra courage. Then we did a small exercise in pairs and shared with each other, the moments in life when we showed extraordinary courage. Through this exercise we could capture the essence of courage as: courage comes from the passion, the goal one has in life. It comes from selflessness, when you serve for the higher cause. Service or sewa strengthens one’s courage. Courage is not the absence of fear but the realization that something else is more important than fear. Then we talked about how an IAS officer had courage to help Tata Steel to fight for mines. The officer got the courage to do so for Tatas because they are the people with integrity.

We then went on to discuss about our dreams in life. Then we shared them with our classmates. One of us has a dream to see India as major player in the Olympics. So for this he is ready to do whatever it takes. Then was the time for the video on the habits of happiness by Matthew Ricard. The video taught us about the happiness associated with living in the present moment, power of meditation to stay happy and much more. The happiest mind is far more strong and brilliant than an agitated mind. Also happiness comes to those who choose to be happy and transforming your mind for the better is happiness. We always say “I want happiness” where I is our Ego and want is desire. So when we get rid of our ego and desires, we are left with happiness.

Then we also talked about Immunity X-ray and how it can be useful to change ourselves for the better. Towards the end of the day, we talked about how unconditional love is the key to happiness. Unconditional love calms our minds and gives us permanent joy. Sir ended the day with beautiful message- power of unconditional love is inside you. Everything that comes between you and happiness can be removed and you have full right to stay happy. J

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