Happiness
Happy or not- this real life incidence describes a little
bit about happiness.
This happened on the 10th of September 2012
and I consider myself unfortunate to miss one of the lectures none of the
student wants to miss (The Self Leadership Lecture).
On the same day me along with some of my peers who had
applied for the 16th AIMA business simulation games were in greater
noida participating in the competition.
It was a three-day event, where teams from our college
had participated and mine was one of them.
The competition was stiff and eventually our team came
out as the regional winners.
Now the former incident of missing one of the most
important class made me unhappy however the latter made me happy.
What is happiness?
Happiness is a state of mind which is always pleasant.
Being happy itself means that you are pleased, cheerful or full of joy. It
symbolises you being in high spirits.
It is usually achieved by : your own self, by people around you and or by
things happening around you.
Philosophically and religiously, definition of
happiness is as living a good life.
Happiness really is fuzzy and could mean differently to
different people. There can also be a certain thing which causes happiness to
some and makes some people unhappy.
(Eg: rain makes the farmer happy as he can have a good
harvest whereas it makes cricket lovers unhappy as they will not have a match
to witness.)
Interestingly the people who were unhappy because of the
rain may become happy if the rain showers at a different time or place.
How can Happiness be
achieved?
Happiness really means a state
when you want something to happen, Happens.
So basically the whole concept
of happiness is related to ones wants and desires.
The desires of humans never die
and there is this feeling of getting more and more every now and then.
The desires really start from
fulfilling ones basic needs that are necessary for existence. These then slowly
and gradually move upto esteem needs and with so many esteem need products,
these needs are never fully satisfied.
(eg: a human being desires to
own an iphone, when he actually does, theres this new version that comes out so
he aspires for the new one.)
This is a never ending process
and is a vicious circle.
Not just the esteem needs, with
the growth of an individual, his/her desires grow as well.
It is very important to
understand that every thing that you desire may not always be fulfilled.
I want to be Sharukh Khan is a
desire, this may not necessarily be true, and will make me unhappy all the
time. This is where Appreciative Enquiry comes into picture. If I am able to identify
what are my are my strengths and weaknesses and what are my capabilities, I may
desire something that I can achieve.
The chances of me being happy
are more in this case as the desire is more achievable.
(eg: an individual who is
academically weak but good at sports should aspire to be a sportsperson rather
than aspiring/desiring to enter IIMs.
The latter will be more
realistic to achieve and the chances of becoming happy are extraordinarily high
in the latter.)
The achievement of happiness
lies within an individual really.
It is fair enough to desire as
that is what drives you to success however it is equally important to desire
something that is more realistic.
The differentiation of
realistic and unrealistic desires can be done with the help of appreciative enquiry.
The bottom line is that we
should minimise what we desire and keep more of the desires on the realistic
sides.
The more realistic are our
desires, the more are the chances of us achieving them. In turn the more are
the chances of achieving happiness.
It brings immense pleasure to
one helping the other understand their capabilities, also it brings a lot of
happiness making someone happy.
This is the easiest way to be
happy, make others happy, do small little things that come at no cost to make
someone happy.
Help the ones who need it as
even small things like patting on the back of child can make him happy.
Help the poor, as they may
become too happy by getting something from you which for you is a necessity (eg:
food, clothes etc.)
These small little things will
make people around you happy and inturn will make you happy as it is because of
you that the happiness is all around.
If every one starts to think
this way this vicious chain/circle will be a pleasure as one would do things to
make the other happy.
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