Happiness
is a state of complete bliss & satisfaction which a living being feels from
the core of one’s heart & soul. And ironically, happiness is attained through
one’s own self, by the harmony of mind & soul. But we usually correlate happiness
with the external factors, especially our beloved ones and other material
needs.
In a way, superficially it’s true that our
beloved ones are the main source of our happiness and sorrow. We are so
habituated in exchanging all the warmth & love from our loved ones that we
presume them to be the only means of our happiness and we expect more and more
from them every day until we encounter a day when our expectations are not
fulfilled. This leads to the intolerable sorrow & depression. In the roller
coaster of happiness & sorrow we forget that we are solely responsible for
our own happiness. Nobody can make us feel happy, sad, inferior or superior
without our consent.
There
are typically two types of happiness; one being temporary which lasts for a very
short duration and other which creates a great impact in our lives and lasts
for lifetime. Temporary happiness is usually associated with temporary ecstasy
and fulfilment of material needs. Once
our needs get fulfilled we grow more greedy and selfish. Our hunger for temporary
happiness can never be satisfied. In contrast, long term happiness is long lasting
as it creates a sense of self actualization and we lose interest in material
needs as we attain self satisfaction.
We as
individuals create different barriers for our own Happiness. We link our
happiness to our surrounding people, place, atmosphere and other things. We are
highly disturbed if anything linked to us does not offer us what we expected of
it.
Every
living being is bound by emotions and humans are no different. Our lives
revolve around people and relationships. With them, come emotions and memories.
Memories don’t have base but still have strong presence in our lives and the
more we try to forget them, the more they get engraved in our thoughts.
Memories
can be both good & bad. Good ones cheer us up every time we remember them.
Bad ones depress us every time we remember them & with time they take up
the forms of the other strong feelings like guilt, fear, revenge & regret. These feelings eat up all our enthusiasm and
the urge to lead a happy life. They force us into darkness & gloom and we
as individuals succumb to our own mental inhibitions and mirage. We are so lost
in the negative cloud of darkness that we don’t even realise that if we had
created it then we have the power to destroy it.
We are
the creators & destroyers of our own happiness & grief. We just don’t
realise it. It is indeed very difficult to realise this and practically apply it
in our daily lives. It takes lots of courage, determination and persistence to
overcome our own fears & grief.
It is
always recommended that we seek out for our loved ones or friends to recover
from a trauma. We as humans are so connected that we reach out to our people at
all the times, either happy or sad. Thus, the cycle of life continues. But the
moment we master our feelings through self actualization, we would hardly rely
on any external factor to change or alter our behaviour and feelings.
We
should always control our feelings as per our wish and never let our
surrounding influence our behaviour and emotions. Happiness can only be achieved through inner peace & harmony.
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