DilipKumar_BLP014_Self Leadership_May2012

Today's discussion was on Self-Leadership. Before we could get into the details of the study, we all were asked a question "what is the one question you would ask yourself to lead life in a better way".  The question I have asked myself is 'what work would make be happy' and I could understand with this question that, I can do any work which makes me feel happy.

As the session passed on, I could understand that Body and Soul are separate. Body/Senses is a mere Object and the Soul is the real "I", which is the inner driving force of the body. I came to know that there are 6 layers of Self-Leadership, which are :

1) Body/Senses/Perceptions - Data

2) Instinct/Reaction - Information

3) Response - Emotions

4) Intellect - Choice

5) Ego - Wisdom

6) Driving force – Mindfulness

The things I learnt that our body/senses(diversity) can only accept the data coming from outer sources. Generally our Instinct is based on our previous experiences and one should not react to the data until the entire information is clear. Once the information is known, It tries to establish a emotional attachment(Compassion),then we would be left with the choices and it’s up to individual on what decision to take(where Ethics comes into picture).Then comes the wisdom of the person(Sustainability) and the last and inner layer is the Life Driving force (Mindfulness).  

       

As said by the famous author Peter Drucker, the best and effective way for one to improve is by taking feedback. Powerful leaders are the one who communicate through eyes and touch. Apart from this they are also great listeners.

1) As rightly said "Eyes are the Windows of the soul", I was able to identify one's feeling by looking at the eyes of the other and also realise that I can convey many of my emotions through eyes.

2) With the exercise we did on "Listening" - I could get that Ego and Alter Ego should be good listeners and misunderstanding could still happen even if both of them want to support each other for the same cause. One has to be clear while communicating and its better not to use words which can create confusion to the listener, with which we are making the listeners job easy. Today I came to know that in this world "There are only Good Listeners but no bad speakers".

Also could get the difference between hearing and listening where Alter-ego would give the implied meaning of the Ego.

3) With the exercise on touch, I could understand that we can convey empathy, we can pass some information or power to the other one with the help of touch. Although one must be aware of the resident Culture before using the power of touch.

Lastly I could say that great leader /Inspired leader will have all the 6 layers aligned. Also, if one has the great purpose in life all the layers would be aligned and we can see strange things in his life, all leading for a great cause.