Tushar Sharma_Hrlp2013_Self Leadership_May 2012

You should honour who you are,
As you are here for some purpose.
A man can think of becoming a great leader only when he can become a self-leader.  In order to accomplish self-leadership, one has to understand the several peripherals of a man’s personality. The 1st peripheral comprises of the 5 senses i.e. touch, smell, taste, see and hear. A man’s joy is short lived if he chooses to live his life on these senses.  Or we can say that any gratification derived out of sensory pleasure is not true happiness. Inside this layer, lies the layer of instincts. It is said instincts just give us information, not necessarily right. The way we mould this information and take actions accordingly, is known as true leadership. In other words, actions must be supported by more logical/rational thinking than just mere instincts. Below this layer is the layer of emotions which signifies the need of a man for deriving meaning out of a relationship. Such a layer should also be channelized into a proper direction as controlling emotions is pretty difficult. Intellect is the next layer, which helps a person to make analytical decision making. It is how a person can act as the witness of his/her own thought process. Then comes the second last layer, which is the layer of ego where all our fears reside. Ego prevents us from changing and makes any action that we do as our habits. Last layer is the layer of ‘I’ or self-awareness. ‘I’ also represent the MINDFULNESS of a person.
After having understood how a man’s personality is divided into layers, it is well understood that choosing to live on the outer periphery, the happiness becomes short lived. Also, the actions carried out of instincts should be checked well in advance, in order to define true leadership. The ego pride is the sense of making yourself happy by delivering services to those who are in need!!! According to me, the ultimate goal of a being is the journey to accomplish the ‘I’ which is the life giving force or discovering who you are and what is your purpose here!!
A person can become a great self-leader if he chooses to serve others before he serve himself, blends rational thinking with his intuitive power and tries to find out what is his actual purpose is in this life!!